One of the realizations of [...] Eugene Pichler, who was on your show a couple of weeks ago, I think is a good realization, because it is true that men who have had the orchiectomy or whatever don't have so much the erotic thing going. I didn't after my orchiectomy. It became sort of a habituation and because it had been so highly charged as a fetish, as a kind of life style, that everything that validates me as a "woman" makes me feel that little tingle and even after the erotic tingle was gone it still ticks off all the boxes for Narcissistic supply.
It feels nice just to have the routine. I tell you I femmed it up. I was like perfect nails, perfect jewlery, every little thing of like stereotypic [so-called] femininity I had to exhibit. It was just ridiculous.
So when I finally did snap out of it, even though I knew, I was like 'Whoa I am a guy. What am I doing? Why am I pretending all this stuff?'
this is nothing like my normal self. I have been just putting on this mask for thirteen years.
It was hard actually to emerge from that, because I was self-habituated to my routines and everything I like to do. I practically buried my actual self.
I would have loved to hear what behaviour your guest was talking about regarding that trans woman. Addictive behaviour is common with what I have seen and it now makes sense that some people swing from one obsession to another as I have seen that first hand. There was a distinct addiction in my ex and his parent as well.
very informative. thank you. wish the best for anyone going thru this pain but must face reality in order to get well.
[I] come back and listen to this interview every few months. [Its] my favorite out of all the ones you have done because its so educational - oh and BTW: my ex's dad was an alcoholic.
To anyone researching information on transsexualism the general prescribed treatment was pushing towards gender re-assignment surgery to bring the body to match the mind. It left you with the feeling that once that was done you lived happily in that role. What Mr. Pichler does is look at the lives of those who have transitioned, and for many we see that the results were not good at all. Perhaps the best thing about this book is the concept of treating transsexualism as you would a behavioral addiction. As a layperson it was excellent to find the information about this subject presented so clearly. The research he presented would not have been available to the average person, or most would not know how to access it. A must read for anyone confronting this problem.
[The book, The Men & Women Who Transgress Gender Norms] could blow the doors off the current understanding of transsexualism.
Great website by the way as it provoked a lot of questions I refused to honestly consider. It opened my eyes!
[Regarding the male-to-female ratio of transsexualism being the same as all other behavioral addictions] That sounds very interesting Though a similar ratio could imply a causal relationship or a correlated variable like testosterone. Still generation of interesting and novel testable hypothesis is what drives great science!
I believe that it is important for the community to be aware of cases like [Jennifer Pallister's], and to ponder the reasons for transition failure in those individual cases. As in any area of human endeavor, we learn from mistakes as well as from successes.
The ideas that some people suffer tremendous losses as a result of going through a transsexual process, and that some people do lie about their medical history in order to get treatment, are ones that certainly do need to be discussed. [...] Efforts to build community are not always smooth or easy, but giving up on them would be an unacceptable loss for all of us.
[The author] is apparently someone, who believes very much in autogynephilia—the myth there being only two motivations for transsexualism, which is either you are a gay man in denial or you are only attracted to yourself and you can only get off on yourself and there is no possibility that if you are an MTF trans* person that you are ever attracted to women, [these people] don't exist. 
It is very much the Michael Bailey spin on things. It is a heterosexist, misogynistic piece of garbáge. [...]
It is ignorant cause it ignores a huge body of work out there to the contrary. It is racist, too. We understand that [the author] is harming people in Canada.
[The author] is opposing SRS in Canada for those, who can't afford it. [The author] published the case studies of three transsexuals in Toronto that was pejorative in nature, that used their full names without their permission. So this is a libelous [...] [he] said these people were mentally ill on [his] website without justificaiton.
I don't know if [he] is dealing with a full deck or what, but [he] has slandered trans* people. [He] is hurting trans* people.
How I Learned To Stop Worrying and Love the Bomb
] Gender Talk, Episode #520, Transgression Magazine: transgresses more than gender; July 23, 2005